Cardi 101: Do You



Here’s the thing, regardless of how we feel about former exotic dancer - turned rapper Cardi B, the girl is as authentic as they come. She has definitely managed to be 100% true to herself, and I’m of the opinion that this is what led to what she calls “money moves.”

On the surface, I’m sure you would think that there isn’t much to learn from an unfiltered Bronx chick who says the unthinkable, and grabs her knees to twerk all while having a full fledge baby in tow. Her twerking at Coachella almost took me out of here! Only Cardi B! Personally, some of her tactics and the way she does what she does isn’t necessarily my flow; however, I do respect her spirit and her ability to be EXACTLY who she is. Cardi’s success teaches us that the often given advice to “do you” is more than just something to say. The reward in staying true to who you are as a person may be bigger than your wildest dream.

So the question becomes exactly how do you “do you” or how do you remain true to the realest version of yourself?

First and foremost, You Have to Cover the Basics and Know Exactly Who You Are! At your core - what are your likes or dislikes? What are your morals? What sincerely makes you happy? What makes you sad? Figuring these things out can sometimes be a difficult task. We easily go through the motions of life with excess baggage that makes it almost impossible to pinpoint or to be crystal clear on the foundation of our being. Checkout out my previous blog post, Take Out the Trash: Spring Clean Your Life, for tips on getting rid of both physical and emotional baggage that may be hindering you from taking the time to think about or explore the answers to these things.  

Stop Worrying About What Other People Think. So many times we flake on our genuine selves because we don’t want people to get the wrong impression, not like us, or have a negative opinion. Sure, there is a time and place for all behavior, but in a world of fake it til you make it, some of us are just plain representatives and get lost in the sauce of appearing to be someone other than who we are. Don’t relinquish you super power honey! You are magical even in your most uncut, unedited form.

Own It All – Flaws and All. No one is perfect. We are all flawed in some shape, form, or fashion. When we begin to acknowledge our shortcomings, change them, or become comfortable in what they are, we create an atmosphere to organically operate in our truth. When you truly own it, you stop holding yourself or those around you to unreasonable standards and expectations. Control the things that you can control and learn to love the things that you can’t.

So there you have it sis – do you! I'm excited about these tips. I truly hope that they help you live your best life - in your own unique way and on your own unique terms.

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